Psalm 30:2 O Lord my God, I cried out to You, And You healed me.
Recovery after a loss is a process. There are no set standards of this recovery. One can recover quickly and one will recover longer, there are no set guidelines as in days, weeks, months, years etc. Mourning, grieving, acceptance, and growth are all a part of this process. One will spend more time in mourning and grieving than another, and some will spend more time trying to accept and grow from a loss.
But make no mistake, those who cry out to the Lord in faith will be healed. And the process of this healing will be to His timing to His will. Sometimes with a loss discipline is being also given by the Lord, meaning we will for example spend more time in mourning and grieving so that we learn from the event of the loss. The healing will be slower or faster all depending on what God has willed, but there will be healing nonetheless.
God’s common grace also extends to those who don’t believe in Him in this healing. How do I know this? Because many unbelievers recover from loss and go through the same process as believers do. If not for that grace, no human being would recover. We would stay in the moment of the darkness of the loss for the rest of our lives. The sun shines and the rain falls for unbelievers as it does for believers.
So in my view, recovery from a loss is in the common grace arena of God’s counsel. It is just that those who cry out to the Lord, know who is doing the healing and extend the glory only to Him! On Judgment Day, the unbelievers will then realize who was behind all the healing, it wasn’t their psychiatrists, or their pills, or self-help books, it was the Almighty God.
Having just went through a devastating loss, I can say without the Lord in my life, I do not know how I could recover of which I am the road to recovery. The days since the loss have been about the same, I grieve and I mourn this loss. I cry out to the Lord to heal me and I know He is listening. Imagine losing everything good in your life on this earth, that is what I am going through. I don’t know how this road will go, but am willing to accept whatever the Lord has in store for me. I am more than anything grateful for the blessing He gave in the time He gave me. I don’t really know if He will replace this good, but know He works all things to our good to those who trust in Him, and that is where I place my trust. In Him alone.
Psalm 107:19 Then they cried out to the Lord in their trouble,
And He saved them out of their distresses.
20 He sent His word and healed them,
And delivered them from their destructions.
A Side Note: About 8 years ago, I drove 4-5 hours pick up my new puppy Leo. I made a MP3 disk with the Book of Psalms of which I listened to all the way there and back. Looking back, little did I know at that time that it would be these Psalms would be the very thing that comfort me now in the loss of Leo. God is always working! I praise Him for His providence.